Life is how we mould it and how we perceive it to be. It is how the thought process of an individual makes him to see life. Who really wants to have a share of the character Charlotte in their life from "Sex and the City" situation? Charlotte waited to have sex with Trey until they were married, and then their sex life was screwed to wort norms, sucked and which ultimately led to their divorce. Had Charlotte and Trey made it out earlier, and addressed the issue before tying the knots of marriage, she could have largely avoided stressing out about the divorce and the in-laws she hated more than ever, and yes she could have been going around and having sex with a new guy! Who knows ?
No matter what corruption they're taught about the virtue of selflessness, sex is the most profoundly selfish of all acts, an act which they cannot perform for any motive but their own enjoyment - just try to think of performing it in a spirit of selfless charity! - an act which is not possible in self-abasement, only in self-exultation, only on the confidence of being desired and being worthy of desire. It is an act that forces them to stand naked in spirit, as well as in body, and accept their real ego as their standard of value. They will always be attracted to the person who reflects their deepest vision of themselves, the person whose surrender permits them to experience - or to fake - a sense of self-esteem. Love is our response to our highest values - and can be nothing else. Ayn Rand puts forward this notion so appropriately in the human context and relates it to the human psychology how we often tend to justify ourselves in the acts of sex.
Our society often tells us that sex is dirty, and sex before marriage is even more filthy, and wrong, and women who fall a trap to it are the worst sinners who have to act that they don't know what a penis looks like. Also, on that magical day i.e the first night after wedding at some point in their twenties or even thirties, those formerly dirty women who get married and the guy would still have them and their torn hymens, and the sex act, an act that they have been doing in a dirty way for quite sometime, suddenly transforms into a blessed experience. For sex, as we see, is very bad, a very dirty thing that you should only do with someone you love too much. Alas, the thought process.
Going by the above said thing, I am not likely intending to say that everyone should start having sex at an early age or enter into sex before marriage or outside marriage. It should happen when one is comfortable with sex and knows about safe sex practices, one need not wait until the wedding night. In the times that we are moving ahead into, it is important that people learn about the benefits of premarital sex instead of going around bitter about it.
There are few women who opt to have a hold until their marriage, which is purely their own decision to proceed with, but the other women need not have to feel guilty or be ashamed about going ahead with it and wanting to do the deed before saying "I do." For few, remaining "pure" may have the moral benefits, but I would plan to rather live longer than be on some abstract moral high ground, and not blaming and cursing anyone for the problems that might arise post-marriage. I do not really find any glitch other than the man's own made notion of 'moral and immoral' with the act of sex, instead should be left over to the individual's own perception.
Sex is something perfectly natural. It’s something that is pleasurable (may be). It is enjoyable (may be) and it enhances a relationship (may be). So why do not we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings because we are all sexual? Ultimately, it is all about how we perceive, and it differs from person to person, and we are no one to judge the other person.
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